Instructions: For each statement, choose the answer that feels most like you right now, not what you wish was true. This is not a test—it’s a reflection.
1. I feel emotionally open to a deep romantic connection.
- A) I usually keep my emotional doors closed. I’m not sure I want to risk love.
- B) I want that kind of connection, but I often block myself from it.
- C) I feel mostly open, though I still hesitate in certain areas.
- D) I feel open and willing to meet love emotionally, even if it scares me sometimes.
2. I make space in my life—physically, emotionally, or mentally—for love to enter.
- A) Right now, love isn’t something I’m preparing for or even expecting.
- B) I think about love sometimes, but I rarely take action to welcome it.
- C) I occasionally adjust things in my life to make room for love.
- D) I regularly create space for love—internally and externally.
3. I believe I have something beautiful and worthy to offer a romantic partner.
- A) I often question whether I’m lovable or enough in a relationship.
- B) I know I have value, but I tend to hide or minimize it.
- C) I’ve come to appreciate myself more and know what I bring to love.
- D) I fully believe in my worth—I know love with me would be a gift.
4. I imagine love often, and it makes me feel hopeful.
- A) I avoid imagining love—it feels unrealistic or painful.
- B) I think about love, but I worry it’s a fantasy I shouldn’t cling to.
- C) I imagine love when I’m in a good place, and it gives me comfort.
- D) I regularly visualize love, and it energizes me with hope and clarity.
5. I’ve learned from past love experiences and feel more aligned now.
- A) My past experiences still confuse or discourage me.
- B) I’ve learned a few things, but I’m still unsure what alignment really looks like.
- C) I’ve taken real lessons from the past and I’m clearer than I used to be.
- D) I’ve deeply integrated my experiences—they’ve made me more aligned and authentic.
6. I feel calm and expectant when I think about falling in love.
- A) I feel tense, nervous, or guarded when I think about love.
- B) I feel mixed—part of me wants it, but part of me pulls away.
- C) I feel mostly at ease, with moments of fear or doubt.
- D) I feel grounded and excited—it feels like something real that’s coming.
7. I trust that love will arrive when I am ready.
- A) I don’t really believe love is meant for me at all.
- B) I want to trust that, but doubt creeps in often.
- C) I think it’s true, and I’m working on being ready.
- D) I trust that love is finding me as I align with it.
8. I’m building a life that love could thrive in.
- A) Love doesn’t feel like a part of the life I’m building right now.
- B) I think about love in theory, but my life doesn’t reflect that desire yet.
- C) I’m starting to build rhythms and values that would support love.
- D) My lifestyle, choices, and habits are becoming a nurturing space for love.
9. I allow others to see my softness and emotional depth.
- A) I keep my deeper feelings guarded—it feels safer that way.
- B) I show small parts of myself, but I’m careful not to be too vulnerable.
- C) I let people in when I feel some level of trust.
- D) I allow others to see my emotional truth—it’s part of how I build intimacy.
10. I feel safe being vulnerable with someone who shows care and intention.
- A) Even with safe people, vulnerability still feels dangerous.
- B) I try to be vulnerable, but I often pull back or overthink it.
- C) I can open up with people who show me consistency and emotional safety.
- D) Vulnerability feels like a gift I can offer when someone is present and respectful.
11. I believe there are people out there who can love me deeply and well.
- A) I struggle to believe people like that truly exist.
- B) I believe they exist, but I don’t think they’d choose me.
- C) I believe they exist and I might meet one, with time and intention.
- D) I know those people are real—and one is on their way to me.
12. I know that healthy, aligned relationships are real and available.
- A) Most of what I see are unhealthy dynamics or settling.
- B) I believe those relationships exist, but only for a lucky few.
- C) I’ve seen examples and believe it’s possible with effort.
- D) I fully believe love is available for those who are willing to grow and align.
13. When I see others in loving relationships, I feel encouraged.
- A) I often feel triggered, envious, or disheartened.
- B) I feel mixed emotions—hopeful but sad or distant.
- C) I feel inspired and use it to remind myself of what’s possible.
- D) I feel affirmed—I know love like that is also available to me.
14. I believe someone out there is preparing to love me just as I am.
- A) That sounds like a fantasy I’ve outgrown.
- B) I wish it were true, but it feels unrealistic.
- C) I believe it’s possible, even if I don’t fully see how.
- D) I know in my bones that someone out there is growing toward me too.
15. I trust my ability to recognize emotionally safe, loving people.
- A) I often choose poorly or miss red flags.
- B) I’m learning, but still second-guess myself a lot.
- C) I’m getting better at noticing who’s aligned and who’s not.
- D) I trust myself to sense safety, alignment, and integrity.
16. I believe I will attract a relationship that fits the real me.
- A) I’ve always felt like I had to shrink or change to be loved.
- B) I’m unsure if someone could love the whole truth of me.
- C) I think I could be loved for who I am, if I keep showing up authentically.
- D) I believe I am magnetic to the kind of love that matches my truth.
17. I can picture myself in a joyful, mutually loving relationship.
- A) That image feels distant or hard to believe.
- B) I try to imagine it, but it slips away quickly.
- C) I sometimes see it clearly—it gives me hope.
- D) I often visualize it—it feels like a real possibility.
18. I believe I can be fully myself and still be fully loved.
- A) I worry I’m too much or not enough to be loved as I am.
- B) I sometimes hide parts of myself to stay safe.
- C) I’m learning to trust that I don’t need to perform for love.
- D) I deeply believe the right love will embrace every part of me.
19. I’m starting to meet or notice people who reflect the kind of love I want.
- A) Most people I meet feel emotionally misaligned or unavailable.
- B) Occasionally I meet someone intriguing, but it rarely goes anywhere.
- C) I’ve started noticing more people who reflect parts of what I want.
- D) I regularly meet people whose energy mirrors what I believe love can be.
20. I believe I’m already on the path toward a beautiful romantic connection.
- A) It often feels like nothing is happening at all.
- B) I feel stuck, but I haven’t given up.
- C) I believe things are shifting, even if I can’t fully see it.
- D) I feel in motion—I trust the path is already unfolding.
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